I’m going to swear a bit more than normal here. Maybe my mom and her friends shouldn’t read this one. I’ve had a couple of sappy blogs in a row now, and if you’ve followed my patterns, you know it is to be followed with something completely ignorant. I wouldn’t be me otherwise.
The topic of course is swearing. There are people who glorify swearing. I don’t think that’s me, although it’s not too far off the mark. There are people who don’t condone swearing. That’s me a very small percentage of the time. You can’t swear elegantly if you can’t pick your spots. I will say this though. I don’t condone substitute swearing. What’s that you ask? It’s when somebody says Fuzz, Frig, Fudge, when they really mean FUCK! (The exclamation mark was meant for the word, not for the whole sentence in case you’re one of those readers who reads aloud to themselves. Meant to be read in normal voice until the word Fuck, and then you take it up 2 notches). The latest and greatest of substitutions that absolutely drive me crazy is ‘Shut the Front Door!’ This (I’m assuming) is a fun, and supposedly appropriate way of saying ‘Shut the Fuck Up! (Except really only useful with the incredulous voice of disbelief, like you told me you won the lottery and I said a high-pitched, almost question like ‘Shut the Fuck Up!!!! Not useful in the Shut the Fuck Up scenario where I actually want you to Shut the Fuck Up). This is a great way to be funny on TV as far as I can tell, but if you’re not on TV, I have no patience for your ‘Shut the Front Door!’
Why do I like swearing? Isn’t it for people who can’t express themselves with a proper vocabulary? In some cases yes. I would say it adds emphasis that cannot be otherwise added. Well placed and well spaced enough, it can be the perfect addition to a passionate discussion. It’s a feel good thing too right? When you’re frustrated, who doesn’t like a good hard fuck?? (Get your head out of the gutter, I didn’t mean it like that…..but I didn’t delete it either). I just love pulling out my potty mouth to describe unsavoury situations. If done right, it makes things funnier. If done wrong, well at least I got to let out some frustration while my audience judges my choices.
Who could possibly argue that a good ‘Fuck You’ is the perfect thing to say to the victim of your road rage. ‘You’re a bad driver’ just doesn’t cut it. ‘You fucking suck!!!’ hits the nail right on the head. We’re just mammals. Fuck is just a word. Why deny yourselves? It feels fucking spectacular sometimes to just let loose.
I know there’s a time and a place, and I’m not claiming to be the foremost expert on that. My son just turned 2. As much as I badly want him to learn the English language properly, it’s only a matter of time before he picks up something terrible from the old man. I try not to swear around him, but it’s just natural self-expression, and it gets the best of me at times. I feel comfortable around him. I let my guard down sometimes.
What I really wanted to say here is not to use substitutions. It’s far more offensive to me than actual swearing. It just means that in your heart, you wanted to let something out, and you didn’t trust me as your listener. It’s a dishonest form of communication. If your soul had a ‘shut the fuck up’ in it, and all that came out was a ‘shut the front door’, then you didn’t let me in. I don’t respect it. I want the truth from you. I want you to let the crazy out, and not be self-conscious about what people think about it. Those aggressive little stress relievers will lengthen your life too. I’m sure of it.
I know a lot of people find swearing gratuitous. If you think you can offload your aggression without doing it, then you’re a better communicator than me. I would suggest that most people can’t, and the silly little substitutions are just a way of telling me that you wanted to do it, but were too worried about what people would think of you. I hope one day you can break free from your shackles and join the rest of us in saying ‘FUCK THIS SHIT, I WANNA BE FUCKING FREE!!!’ Save your uptightness for something more important.
October 28th, 2014 at 8:24 pm
You are my new hero.
October 29th, 2014 at 12:33 pm
October 28th, 2014 at 8:41 pm
No substitutions for me either. Let the crazy out, or don’t let it out at all.
October 29th, 2014 at 12:33 pm
October 29th, 2014 at 4:12 am
I absofuckinglutely agree, my friend.
October 29th, 2014 at 12:40 pm
October 29th, 2014 at 4:50 am
October 29th, 2014 at 12:40 pm
Oh my god, I just responded to a comment with a fuck yeah 2 seconds ago, and now this. Great minds think alike.
October 29th, 2014 at 6:45 pm
Hahaha I guess so! Fuck yeah and hell yeah are my replies to a lot of things…
I know a person who legitimately says ‘shoot’ instead of ‘shit’ every. Single. time. That scares me.
My wife and I swear a lot but our kids know not to use those words. The 10yo does occasionally (always appropriately) when she’s at our house, she knows NOT to outside our house (or when she’s with her dad, who corrected me with ‘and stuff’ one time I was talking to him and said ‘and shit’…)
October 30th, 2014 at 3:48 am
It’s dicey with kids I suppose. If they want to curse, they’ll find a way to do it, whether it’s in front of the parents or not.
October 29th, 2014 at 3:40 pm
I grew up in a house were you didn’t say the “F” word.. (Are you looking down on me for say the “F” word instead of Fuck? Well too bad.). In MY house my son says Fuck the most among other well know curse words.. “It’s just a word!” my husband and son say. And they’re right, Even I say FUCK when I’m very angry, but I can’t see using it 5 times in one paragraph as a POSITIVE word.Like “Isn’t this Fucking Great?!” can be used as a positive statement or a negative statement. I will be the first to admit saying SOME WORD in frustration helps relieve stress when angry or even fearful! I say SHIT and PISS all the time. Anyway, I don’t like to hear FUCK in my house all the time as a standard form of expression, but I seem to have control of the situation.
October 30th, 2014 at 3:44 am
Your house, your rules! I find Fuck most effective when peppered into the conversation as opposed to used every other word. It loses its punch when overused.
October 30th, 2014 at 3:28 am
Love this! But I also have young kids. I do slip up sometimes, but I gotta bring out the “crubnugget” or else I’ll start getting phone calls from teachers!
October 30th, 2014 at 3:40 am
Yeah, it’s a tough situation. I do believe kids should learn proper English before they learn their curse words.
December 15th, 2014 at 12:30 am
I’ve resorted to “fuckeroni”, which makes the word sound cute and me seem really weird. Great post!
December 18th, 2014 at 1:33 pm
I like that! So Italian…